Counseling Basics

The ones who should look for marriage counseling are:

a) People who want to start a family.

b) People who want to be married and would like advice on how to arrange that.

c) People who have a spouse and are looking to avoid divorce.

The people who shouldn’t look for marriage counseling:

a) People who want to remain single.

b) People who want to get married but who are not sure of the process.

c) People who have no interest in getting married and don’t want to know about it.

d) People who are married and think they want to get divorced but are not sure.

e) People who are divorced, but don’t want to have the counseling because of how uncomfortable it makes them feel.

All counseling professionals:

a) Should refer people to a counselor they see regularly who is experienced in counseling people to have a second opinion about their situation. This doesn’t mean that they should recommend counseling as a first line of defense, but they should always give advice when considering counseling to people with depression or anxiety and be prepared to discuss issues. This can include a discussion of the difficulties that a person has in committing to counseling, and the possibility that they might benefit from other ways of dealing with depression and anxiety.

b) Should not refer people to counseling unless they are confident, they have been prescribed a course of antidepressants. c) Should be cautious of referring people to counseling if they have not discussed with the person the risks involved and the limitations of counseling.

The following points are also important. The initial counseling sessions should be limited to an assessment of the person’s needs and the type of support required. The first person to refer someone for counseling should usually be the person who is going to care for the person after they leave the hospital, for example a family member, close friend or partner. The aim should be to make the person understand the seriousness of the situation and the fact that they will not recover on their own. There may be many different options available for dealing with the person’s problems, and a good initial assessment of the person’s specific needs would provide guidance for counseling.

The person should be asked for the names of people they know that are willing to take up the person’s case, as well as their telephone numbers and other contacts. This may be helpful in case there is any problem with an early referral, or the person is not willing to provide information for fear of embarrassment or being put in an untenable position.

An evaluation of the person’s needs should be undertaken to establish whether the person is eligible for a full assessment as a career or for an assessment of the person’s needs. If it is assessed that the person is eligible for a full assessment, they should be put on a local housing scheme that will enable them to have access to appropriate support.